Overrated/underrated statements

‘There is a crack in everything, that’s how the light gets in’.

Leonard Cohen.

Many people throw words and sentences without considering the effect it will have on the receiving end. I have a few of them that I get to hear over and over again and hopefully you choose your words and tone carefully next time you use any of them if you agree with me.

I’m sorry. Please don’t ever use this phrase when you’re not sincerely sorry, you don’t accept that you were on the wrong, you don’t intend to change the cause that necessitated your apology or say it twice over the same mistake. Please don’t because you’re not sorry and it causes more harm.

You always have a choice. No you don’t always have a choice. For instance you don’t get to choose whether to murder or let people who make your life miserable to live. You’re spoilt of choice in this case but the law says otherwise. Also we all have to agree that some things are beyond what we can comprehend and hence you don’t have a choice.

BF: Why did you breakup with me?

GF: You’re constantly hurting me and you left me no choice.


Winners don’t make excuses. So you’re told this by parents growing up, teachers in junior school, college, at work, in your own business and at the gym. The only thing they forgot to tell you is that if you don’t make excuses they’ll not have the opportunity to give you a reason to keep pushing you so you’ll automatically win.

Loyalty is a two way street. You cannot be loyal to someone who is disloyal to you. You cannot expect loyalty from someone who doesn’t know whether you’re loyal to them or not. Once loyalty is in question it’s not given in return. There is no other better to say this.

You don’t know about tomorrow. Well, you cannot take in shit just because you don’t know what will happen if you stop taking shit. Stop tolerating disrespect in your jobs, relationships or from anything for fear of tomorrow. Tomorrow is Friday buddy and guess what? Tomorrow will still come regardless of your state so what exactly are you waiting for? Don’t let the fear of the unknown make you miserable. Face it.

For as a man thinketh in his heart, so is he. Our mouths speak what the heart is full of. The power of thoughts and inclinations of the heart shape the reality of who you are. It doesn’t matter what you read or hear if your mind doesn’t change, you will simply impose your biases and labels on everything which will ultimately shape your actions. I cannot overemphasize this.

You are an average of your closest circle of people. Personally I think this phrase is used to encourage people to surround themselves with right and like minded people not necessarily because they all will contribute so much to who you become. Some of us never have constant people in our lives so maybe we are an average of every stranger we meet weekly or we are anomalous. Sometimes your closest circle sucks and you’re around them by circumstances not by choice. They will have close to zero influence on who you become.

Life is hard. There is nothing hard about life. Someone has already done what you’re doing now, so why don’t you just keep breathing and live up to your potential, be the best version of you and see life lead you. Life is only hard if you are working against time or competing with it and your mindset about the same.

Believe in yourself. It takes people who are well equipped (in different aspects like skills, finances, drive, mindset, knowledge, timing etc.) to understand these words otherwise they remain mare words to the rest. A lot of factors are put in place to turn those words into an action. Unfortunately most people think you need to just say them and get going. Where are you headed john?

I understand. No you don’t. Anything that involves feelings you can never understand. Unless you have been in the very same situation and all other factors are kept constant. Please tell someone you can relate and then proceed with your advice or the conversation. The only time we use these words is when you’re taking instructions, are knowledgeable about something or it’s facts.

You can become whatever you want. No dear, chances of you becoming the President of The United States of America is close to zero if not zero already. I’m not rude, just logical. Apart from hard work and luck, there are numerous factors that will lead you into or out of your passion.

Thanks for stopping by.


Things that annoy me

I took a break from writing because something bad happened and I couldn’t get a minute to write but I’m back hope you all missed me.

Before I pen down the long list of things that I consider annoying I’m already annoyed because I woke up excited today did my morning routine and attended a successful appointment. On my way back just opposite where I stay I decided to have my car washed but fuck! on alighting I dropped my beautiful, beautiful A50 which I really treasure and broke the screen if you know how painful that feels. What the fudge! I left almost crying but there is nothing much I could do I just thought it is the perfect day to write about the things that suck.

  1. People who are always in your inbox writing hey, hi, how are you everyday, three times a day, whole week, through the month. Come on! It’s not like I don’t appreciate people who are concerned about my well being but hey! check our relationship and give me time to attend to other important things after all the answer is always I’m okay even when I’m not so cut down the crap and do genuine and reasonable checking ins on people.
  2. Lack of Etiquette. what does it cost to show conventional decorum and just being polite? You can still raise yourself up if you missed those codes of polite social life, by practicing them. It is not hard at all I promise. I believe etiquette makes us human enough and EVERYBODY needs it. Incase you are wondering what are those petty things that are stressing me they include; I’m sorry, excuse me, Please, thank you etc.
  3. I get so annoyed when people line up in long queues only to reach at the service point then start deciding what they wanted. Honestly what could you be busy thinking all that long until you forget you are standing for something? Just go back and come prepared. Queues suck too.
  4. This one is kinda funny but sucks. Those people who make loud calls in public what’s usually your point? Can’t those calls wait if you have no lower tone than that? Shortly before the pandemic I happened to be at an airport and witnessed some guy dragged by security because he was shouting on phone and heading the opposite direction from the rest of the crowd. Trust me the guy had not committed any crime but the behaviour was suspicious. No one is interested in your conversation or want to be involved keep it private please
  5. People who don’t rinse off the bathroom after use. How the hell do you leave a bathroom with hair all over or foam on walls and feel clean yourself, who raised you human? It is totally disgusting and so uncomfortable for the next user for hygiene sake.
  6. Can we also talk about how people don’t find it necessary letting a door close slowly or hold a door for a second for the next person when they are so close. Damn! it sucks slamming doors and worse doing it when the person behind you is two steps away. Please!
  7. As a host I would also like to advice you to keep your comments while in someones house if they aren’t compliments or positive comments. They annoy and are absolutely unnecessary I promise. Everyone has their own rules, liking and procedures at their houses.
  8. Back to phones, now that we use them all the time It doesn’t make sense leaving someone over 10 missed calls within hours or a day. If the person wants to call back be sure one or two missed calls will be seen. Thanks
  9. People who show a lot of intimacy and affection to their partners in public I’m not sure I come from a rural set up but I don’t find it something pleasant. There is some word called privacy and I think such things fit in there. We have kids and non-interested people watching you kindly save it for later.
  10. This one I also do sometimes but sorry I shouldn’t cause it annoys.While having a conversation it is rude and it sucks interrupting without excusing yourself. In addition to that it doesn’t feel right completing peoples sentences unless the speaker gives room for that. let people express themselves fully and in their own way. Thanks.

I know my list could go on and on but let me leave it at that for today.

Yours Miss Curiosity,


Copying Vogue’s 73 questions

By now hopefully everyone has come across the famous series of 73 questions with (a celebrity name videos posted online by Vogue Magazine. If you haven’t, no worries. The series are created by Joe Sabia and they’re basically 73 rapid-fire questions asked to a celebrity and answered in about 10 minutes.

So I’m seated and thinking I have watched so many celebrities answer those questions and its quite easy and fun why don’t I also try because it’s another way of making you know me even better just like I would like to read yours when you tag me in your posts. Although I didn’t copy any exact set of questions asked to a particular celebrity all are picked from the series and here is my version;

  1. What’s your biggest weakness? Overthinking
  2. What’s your idea of a perfect date? A night out, dinner, dim lights short walks and a lot of talking.
  3. What’s one vice you wish you could give up? Comparison
  4. What’s the best compliment you’ve ever received? ‘You are the most intelligent girl I have ever met’ that was sweet
  5. When are you the most inspired? When I see my peers doing something really interesting
  6. Sweet or savory? Savory
  7. Are ghosts real? I’m not sure but I doubt they aren’t real
  8. What song can you listen to on repeat? Quite a number but Justin Timberlake’s Mirror for the question
  9. What makes you smile the most? Babies smiling at me
  10. Are Aliens real? Probably
  11. What’s under your bed? Nothing. The hell would I have stuff under my bed? I actually check under bed to make sure it’s clear before I sleep. That scared me
  12. Are you proud of what you are doing with your heart and time right now? To be honest No I’m not
  13. Vintage or new? New
  14. What’s your current TV character obsession? None
  15. If you could buy one material thing and money was not an issue what would it be? A house with a private beach
  16. How would you define yourself in three words? Self-motivated, sapiosexual and all round
  17. Would you ever adopt a child? I have always considered this but I haven’t done it yet but most likely I will
  18. On a scale of 1-10, how excited are you about life right now? With the current pandemic 4
  19. Describe yourself in a hashtag? #Misscuriosity
  20. Do you want to get married? Again to be honest I think marriage is a beautiful thing especially if you marry the right person but it’s among the least of my priorities
  21. If you could do a love scene with anyone, who would it be? My boyfriend
  22. What’s your wakeup ritual? Visiting the washroom, brushing teeth, making lemon water and checking my mail.
  23. Are you a morning person? Hell no I’m a sleepy head
  24. Do you have trust issues? YES
  25. What’s your favorite time of day? In the evening because I have a view of the sun setting down the lake.
  26. Dream country to visit? Singapore
  27. What do you when you’re pissed off? Scroll through my phone checking nothing or sit in the toilet and avoid the world.
  28. What’s the biggest surprise you’ve had? I don’t think I have one I could call big but I’m hoping I’lll have one
  29. What’s one ingredient you put in everything? Lemon
  30. What’s your biggest fear in life? Do I really have one? I doubt
  31. Secret talent? No Idea
  32. Best piece of advice you’ve received? If I can’t buy it twice I don’t afford it
  33. Best advice you’d give your teenage self? There is power in waiting and consistency is the only way to make it.
  34. What would you like to be remembered for? Kindness
  35. What do you love most about your body? Honestly I don’t have what I love most maybe something I hate most could me easier
  36. If you could master one instrument, what would it be? A violin
  37. What’s your spirit animal? A unicorn
  38. Best gift you’ve ever received? My personal person is my best gift
  39. Best gift you’ve ever give? My time and concern
  40. What’s your favorite color? Blue
  41. Coffee or tea? Coffee. It’s not like I hate tea but I’d choose Coffee over it
  42. You are stuck on an island, you can pick one food to eat forever without getting tired of it, what would you eat? I’ll eat peas whether cooked or uncooked, steamed, boiled, fried or a as stew
  43. If you made a documentary, what would it be about? If not about the millenial life crisis it has to be agriculture
  44. Last piece of content you consumed that made you cry? Family issues I don’t want to write about it unless I want to cry again.
  45. How do you know you’re in love? When I don’t know why I love the person and when I become stupid with the person
  46. What’s the weirdest word in the English language? I literally can’t think of any weird words
  47. If you had one superpower, what would it be? The power to control time
  48. Last book you read? Margaret Thatcher’s autobiography
  49. Coolest thing in the world? I can’t think of any other impressive thing as Technology.
  50. What’s something you notice about someone when you first meet them? I mostly notice their sense of humor and eye contact.
  51. What’s your guilty pleasure? Being an opportunist and popping pimples. I can’t even discuss these with myself.
  52. What’s your favorite holiday? All holidays are my favorite because I treat them as free days
  53. If you could raid one woman’s closet who would it be? Beyonce
  54. What’s one thing you’ve always wanted to try but you’ve been too scared to do? Starting a YouTube channel. Silly right? I also don’t know why I’m afraid
  55. What’s the one thing you wish you knew at age 19? I wish I knew I was better that I thought
  56. Besides your phone or wallet, what’s a couple of must-have purse items? Lip gloss, a pen, note book, sanitizer, wipes, pocket tissues, a nail cutter, perfume, lotion, charger and a floss. I hope you all also carry a lot of things so that I don’t look stupid here
  57. If you were not a blogger or group fitness instructor, what would you be doing? I would be doing covers, and trying on Jeopardy tests
  58. What’s something you can’t do? I don’t know yet I’m still trying on everything
  59. Favorite food? I’m a meat lover
  60. What’s the one talent you wish you had?  I wish I could be a ventriloquist. The art is damn spectacular
  61. What’s something you don’t want to be doing in 10 years? Call me lazy but I really don’t want to be folding my clothes 
  62. Do you like surprises? Mmh! Yes and No. I mean it depends with who is surprising me and what the surprise is about. No lies I would love surprising good news or tangibles from my loved ones and hate surprise visits or bad news. Get it
  63. What’s one thing you had to learn the hard way? I am the only thing I need in life
  64. What’s something you’re tired of? I tired of trying too much.
  65. What are your bad habits? Procrastinating, over-doing things, underestimating myself, not giving a fuck
  66. What phobias do you have? Acrophobia, entomophobia, Numerophobia and Arithmomania. These four I can’t deal with them
  67. When was the last time you cried? A couple of hours ago
  68. What do you miss most? I miss my childhood summers and specifically where I grew up
  69. First pet? Well, I have never kept a pet but I’m sure I’d keep a dove as my first pet
  70. Do you like your neighbors? Lol I actually don’t hate my neighbors but to be honest I don’t like my adjacent neighbor because she can’t let me be me (hope she reads this)
  71. When do you laugh the most? When I’m with my best friend, family, on phone, while high. Okay so do I even laugh less?
  72. 73.Where do you see yourself in10years? I have no Idea

Wow! The honesty in the 73 answers is quite impressive I know.


Things that will not allow you to succeed in life. #generationy

Growing up my parents made me think the only way to succeed in life is scoring top grades at school and getting a good paying job which is obviously not the case in real life. Through my own experience and from the older people I have interacted with, I realized there’re a thousand ‘small’ factors and decisions that can make a person never succeed in life.Here are a few;

1. Willingness: it’s funny that people who are not willing to fail will actually not succeed in their plans because success is one word covering all factors around success and its opposite (failure)

2. People who hold on to their past whether good or bad; the world keeps on changing, you are changing just like I am which makes people who don’t leave the past where it belongs and move on fall in the category.

3. Lacking a why in your life is another sure road to never interacting with success. A friend of mine taught me to always answer why to both a serious and “stupid” decision I make in life just to be sure I need it.

4. People who start with quantity and end with quality.

5. Over valuing your academic smartness and forgetting there exists life idiots who are academically champions. Do I really need to stress on this one?

6. Satisfaction. Don’t get me wrong,, everyone needs to be satisfied with the product of their efforts but getting satisfied with life is not a good idea especially if success to you means what it means to me huh! I mean don’t stop seeking knowledge and doing better even when you see good results.

7. Do you remember those motivational speakers who told you that you are the sum average of your five close friends? Yeah! Avoid negative friends as a plague because those blackhearts in the name of friends will not allow you see success.

8. Egoism is also not needed on your road to success just keep it in mind that you better use peoples experiences as compared to your own especially when it’s from mistakes which usually carries the larger part of lessons you take from experiences anyways, not forgetting social connections are as important as that which you want to work around.

9. Heard #generationy talk of ‘ATT’? Hope you’ve read this somewhere ‘nothing can stop a man with the right mental attitude from achieveing his goal; nothing can help the man with wrong mental attitude. Need I say more?

Hope my list is helpful to someone and freely add to the list.

Miss Curiosity,

The Journey Begins

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Thanks for letting me,

Miss Curiosity.

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