How do you keep yourself from feeling hurt when your best friend stops talking to you? What can you do to express yourself without feeling like the victim from the failed relationship? Keeping in mind you shouldn’t let others dictate your happiness it really does hurt when someone you trusted changes.
It all ended into ghosting shortly after she lended her a few coins. Those two had been very close friends for over five years just right from the first day they met at a queue while on the process of getting admitted to the university. They just clicked and everything seemed working for the two; same course, same hostel, same taste of games and even created same habits over time. The love and trust kept growing over time, event after event, the fun and laughter especially the nights they didnt sleep gossiping and laughing at silly jokes. The crazy things they did in the name of experimenting and enjoying the freedom that comes with being an adult.
I havent talked about the truths and dares, their crazy bucket lists and for once serious stuff like sharing project ideas, reading together or maybe helping each other submit their assigments and CAT papers or still signing both names on attendance lists even when the other was present in the room. After all the registration numbers, Identification and the signatures were at each others’ fingerprints.
All these are the memories that make her almost hate the ‘best friend” but actually she cant. What is this that changes so much to an extent someone you almost trusted with your life becomes someone you are afraid they might be planning for your downfall or almost be sure they never cared a bit while you were busy serving them your life?
It’s eight months since they talked and laughed like before but she isnt completely over her yet. Life and love are unfair that I know. “I didn’t do anything wrong to her, I was there for her when she needed me most, if she cared she will come back, if she didnt time will heal the pain” I could also say the same cause life is sweet when you are giving more and not expecting the same from people. It’s kind of bearable for me loving someone and not be loved back than the vice versa. Ego is something we all ought to have for the sake of our peace sometimes.
Its pretty hard and probably impossible to avoid pain from that cold treatment because she had a true connection with her, dont think its “dictating“. A decision to get over it is likely to hurt her and change her but the more maturely she responds, I guess the better person she will become.
I know I ask a lot of questions without answers but I know a thing about this situation, if they suddenly stop talking to you simply stop thinking about it as much as possible. The less you give your thought, the less room for emotion and pain. You could even pretend it never happened while having it at the back of your mind (the torture is less).
Be patient and try to find other connections with other people cause people come into your for a reason and leave for a reason. You will definitely find better friends and this time lifetime friends. Remember to love yourself more than anyone else and can you also keep in mind the Friendship paradox (your friends are more likely to have more friends than you).
I can also be your friend if they ditch you I’m right here.