Secrets to being beautiful

I’ve come across a lot of people who don’t feel beautiful enough and to be honest it bothers me knowing very well I always feel like the Prettiest being existing in the era. I’m taking the chance to appreciate every person who has made another person feel adorable bacause that’s beautiful and so considerate of you. THANK YOU.

I’m also hoping you didn’t find this blog because you felt less beautiful but just wasn’t sure what should make you feel beautiful and I just happened to mention less than eight aspects to confirm your fears.

Smile; There is nothing pretty than your smile and that’s it, just smile . Do it more often and do it all the time

Love; Awwwn!! Who can even describe the feeling? Unless you’ve never fallen in love you should definitely recognise the beauty of being in love or just think about that special feeling you have for your mum.

Appreciate and be grateful ; Just ‘thank you’ is a whole beauty. All people who show that they’re grateful in anything are damn adorable and YES beautiful indeed.

Etiquette; Do I even need to remind humans that etiquette is a must tool for coexistence? You’re so pretty if you always and easily utter the ‘thank you’, ‘please’, ‘may I’, ‘excuse’ and those kind of words whenever you have interactions with fellow humans.

Be natural. Yes please be natural. Stop faking accents, smiles, voices or laughing at things that ain’t funny to you. Should be easier understanding when I put it like ‘be you?’ Thank you, everybody is damn pretty in their own versions and get it right that it sounds absurd and boring when you’re trying to duplicate someone else huh! We already have the original version and you know how it feels obvious redoing something.

Showering more than once in a day is pretty much an achievement and a luxury to most of us. You’re obviously more comfortable when you’re fresh and smelling some sweet body cologne, so why not? Invest in this you’ll not regret anytime soon.

Wear comfy clothes and shoes no matter how they look. I have to emphasise that oversize clothes don’t mean you’re looking funny or careless neither do exposing outfits mean you’re showing off and yes highlighting your beauty spots don’t mean you want attention.You’re absolutely right and right on track wearing anything that you feel free and comfortable in so do exactly that because it’s the Prettiest and easy thing to do.

Relax! you are damn beautiful! So far at my age I haven’t read an article or a book which describes beauty in some specific way and so I’m confident saying everyone is beautiful and yes YOU are beautiful why don’t you just relax enjoy or maybe explore the beauty within you.

Please Cry

While society callously considers shedding tears to be a sign of weakness, it is my sign of acknowledging the experiences and showing highly evolved behaviours. I miss crying. It’s been two days and I’m worried something unusual must be happening to me. Call me a cry baby I could be one and I cry for no particular reasons sometimes

I understand most people cry to express sorrow and frustration but here I am and thanks for stopping by to meet #MissCuriosity who cries to express almost all emotions.

From my journey on the internet streets search I learnt that from when one is born, crying is an attachment behaviour and so now you know how to get attached to me right? Go ahead have a good cry darling let’s do this.

I’m a very joyous person if I could evaluate myself and laughing is one of my habits. (So you don’t think I’m depressed) No, crying actually prevents depression. I laugh untill I cry.

Why I’m recruiting you into this cry team;

If you’re feeling blue, crying is a way to let those around you know you’re in need of support.

It is the fastest way to move on and be happy. Simply cry if someone or something messes up with your feelings. Easy!! You are happy now.

It keeps people closer. If you’re feeling like your partner wants to quit the relationship hug and hold them close. Cry letting those tears drop on their shoulders and don’t thank me, pay me please. No man will walk with stains of tears on their shirts and that’s it he isn’t going anywhere. Yes you won sis🙂.

Crying in response to something that makes you happy is also very important because it helps your body relax and feel the connection to the event or thing.

It helps detoxify the body, self soothe and improves sleep. A tip it should be.

‘cry before bed each day for a goodnight rest’ ~ INSOMNIACBLUEISHLIFE

It dulls pain, relieves stress, calms you down and improves your mood by releasing hormone oxytocin which is a feel good hormone.

Lowers your blood pressure and pulse rate allowing you to embrace your emotions and humanity as it serves as a social function.

The next time you don’t have a reason to cry just cry for the well being of your body and mind. It’s therapeutic. Don’t shy from shedding tears if you feel the need to release some.

NO ONE: I believe that a womans crying is so powerful to get a man to do the things you want him to do that arguing will never accomplish.

#INSOMNIACBLUEISHLIFE:😭😭 (Starts crying)

Have a good cry. #staysafe and #stayhealthy. Cheers!!

PERSON-AH!!-LITIES

I specifically want to point out these three types of humans. A’aght? “Judy did you just make faces”? I know, I know it’s totally unpleasant to have them around but they’re always there in our everyday lives.

So some human somewhere cannot accept facts, they deny and write off everything as nothing just to stay on their own track. They constantly mock,make fun of and look down upon peoples features and or talents. The insecure person

There is this one that had the universe lose direction and is now completely orbiting around them. The self-centered human creatures will think everything is wrong with everyone else and the world in general. For ‘consideration’s sake’ if that exists Would you stop and consider maybe you might be wrong in how you feel or think? No, the world will come to a stop or slip off the orbit (thinks the human).

Oh! Hello the masterminds of deception? You always get away with it right? right. I mean, this human is so ‘respectable’ as they present themselves, but the real thing is they are sly and cunning. The self presentation is usually a facade to make you confortable but they have a ‘plan’. The manipulative person does something nice for someone but uses it against them later on.

They just get in for them and them alone either by the ‘foot-in the door’ or ‘door-in the face’ technique. Either has to work.

NO ONE:Everyone has a toxic trait which sometimes becomes their personalities if overlooked.

#INSOMNIACBLUEISHLIFE: Is it? Where are you from? who raised you? Cut that crap out. There is zero excuses for toxic characters.

It’s a free, social world and having some sense of humanity is very crucial I promise.

Cheers,

If you need to hear something nice here it is; you are doing absolutely great hold on, you are just right about there.

Miss Curiosity

‘Positive Thinking’

Good day, I never live by the theory of ‘Positive Thinking’. To live with Positive Thinking, is to live with unreal and delusional expectations that everything in life can be measured to how one idealises, without deliberating that one is not in control of anything outside of oneself. It sets a person up for a very high and hard fall whenever this ‘Positive Thinking’ fails to achieve the desired result.

It also perpetually leads to repeated errors, irresponsibility, poor judgement and calamity because everything negative is merely ignored and shut away as though it doesn’t exist. By shutting the negative side to life off, people find themselves caught in the Negative far more than they are in the Positive.

By never acknowledging and embracing that there is always a Negative side to Positive, one cannot establish the route to Positive without first learning why something is Negative in the first place and why it gives meaning to what is Positive, and why it is more valuable for us to be orientated towards Positive, for to ignore it means that anyone can mistake something Negative for being Positive, and confuse them until they lose all grasp on what is right and what is wrong. Eventually they find out when they’ve run themselves in to a dark rut for which it is remarkably difficult to climb out, if it hasn’t already destroyed itself.

The way to live is to be in the middle of them both. Equalised. To sit in the neutral position, but with a focus to be Positive. In other words, being Neutral-Positive.
If you can see the Negatives and know they exist, then one can tally, think, deliberate and ruminate about their values and come to a logical conclusion as to what desired decision and best course to take to reach a goal with the least amount of Negative resistance, calamity or obstruction but also, be prepared for when it does happen because the Negatives have been evaluated and recognised.

“Change your thoughts and you can change your world.” –Norman Vincent Peale

Ooh weather

Rainy days are therapeutical and a total bliss to me except for when it leaves hours of coldness long after its gone. From where I come from we dont have the summer and winter seasons as in the tropics but seems we are getting a taste of one of them.

We’ve been experiencing a very cold weather over the past few days and a lot of people are joking around it as our new “winter”. If you love laughing like me I know you have probably encountered those memes in most of the social apps. Just to make it more clear I love laughing at jokes and memes so much that I could probably laugh at an unexpected place if I happened to read one. My sense of humor is so high and I really love that about myself cause I’m mostly alone and that makes my time worthwhile.

Apparently weather affects my moods alot and so of late my mood is heightened a lot when it comes to happiness. I’m also sleepy all the time.

Talk of new normals now that the pandemic( Covid 19) led us into one mine currently is an interesting one. I stopped cooking I’m now a friend to all the food plugs and especially those that deliver to door steps thanks to technology that introduced us to food apps. On normal days I arrive home slightly before 7pm, carry out my normal evening routine which includes making coffee of course, jump on the couch or get in bed and turn on my headphones, plug them and netflix? No, I dont have enough time for movies and series I left that for weekends. I get to YouTube for comedy and social media specifically for memes- the reason I love Pinterest most (not an Ad).

I can assure you it’s totally normal and fun laughing alone and I really don’t wanna outgrow this habit. My life would be more than just boring I know. I’m loving the rainy days, cold nights and chilly mornings mmh! Being in sheets and dressed like a NASA agent who’s just about to go to the moon is getting me excited and has somehow reduced insomnia. I think I only need to deal with anxiety now and I can have a complete good night sleep.

My mom used to force us to go to bed and complain when we wake up early and I can only wish this could happen again but damn!! I no longer need alarms to wake me up infact if I set one I wake up before it goes off. Being in sheets is my ultimate goal of the day lately, I just belong to the sheets and this feeling is close to that of love(winks) because it completely curves my emotions.

I just belong to the sheets and I’m looking forward to tonight because its a date and I’m not about to even think of turning it down. Break ups aren’t healthy.

May our winter continue.

Yours,

Miss Curiosity

This week,

Growing up I have always and probably still believe in this sentence that ‘people make time for people they want to make time for( agreed) and ‘no one is too busy for those they care about (unsure)’, but I mostly get it from those that are hurt or nagging that’s why I kind of don’t agree in totality.

I’m exhausted, so exhausted, completely worn out I can’t even sit down so I opted for the floor. While here lying on my floor I just thought I could happily sell myself for some candies if that will make me disappear for some hours. I have had a very long week and it’s just Wednesday evening. I wish I could get the superpower I have always mentioned in those fun games I play ( The superpower to control time) I promise you all we would be on Friday evening right now.

How insane does it sound when some humans cannot actually understand you when you say you couldn’t or can’t make it for reasons best know to you? In short of late I have been very engaged to an extent I cannot make a to do list even in my mind. I just wake up to everything and go to bed I can’t remember how.

What I’m trying to say is that honestly I haven’t had time for anyone not because I don’t have people I value but because I haven’t had the time. I can easily describe my situation like I’m trying to breathe freely although I cant (wearing a mask the whole day is still a struggle to me).I have been so engaged and things are so tight on my end. I lost approach but I’m hoping to recollect myself soon enough so I don’t lose my mind too.

I should get some rest now after this little reminder. I value every single human and really appreciate every single moment I spend with people physically or virtually. I can’t wait to have a normal and settled life again.

Yours,

Miss curiosity.

LIFE CARD II #20 Interesting things I am practicing in my life

DON’T INTERRUPT ANY SPEAKER! especially in this tone.
Switch off your phone and even keep it in a separate room if you find yourself checking it severally while working on some serious stuff. It is a distraction.
Take off your sunglasses while talking to a stranger, it is a sign of respect and eye contact saves a lot memory about the person.
Don’t sacrifice innovation for productivity.Capture your team’s best ideas.
Take time to decompress instead of jumping into another task if you finish your meeting early.
Time-block your calendar and instate the <5 mins rule(in case you dint know it, the <5 mins rule simply means if a new task comes in that you somehow see and know it will take you less 5 mins to complete it, do it on the spot because it will save your to-do list from adding up).
I am implementing most of the life hacks I read online and it helps maximize the benefits of the cloud saving me time and headaches.( I will do a list of the life hacks soon)
You come off as more sagacious when you broaden your vocabulary.
If your friend does you a favor, you owe them. ie if they cover your bill now you pay next time.
You shouldn’t ever be satisfied by someones complement. Ask if there is anything about you that concerns them or if they have a suggestion, that way you will know the truth.
I create time for informal meetings. I mean, spend time with people who will allow you to be you and laugh like an idiot.It is stress relieving and self rewarding.
Being angry is a waste of time, show restraint in expressing anger, no matter what.
I have a lot of questions with very few answers.
Proper grammar is necessary if you want to go far, foul language is for your family and close friends just like you should mean what you say and say what you mean if you want to be “someone”
Avoid placing your phone on the dinner table doesn’t matter what meal and/or where.
Work hard for the things you want and need. There are no handouts out here.
Never ever be provoked into doing something that you don’t want to do, you end up the stupid one and they are likely to win.
Treat every single person even those that you don’t know as very important not because you don’t know of tomorrow but because actually everyone is so important in life.
Family comes first but don’t be too blind to see when you or they go wrong and stand by something that won’t be compromised even by them.
Investing in yourself is the greatest achievement with best return on investment.
Eat healthy, workout daily, stay focused no matter the situations, give your best and always help others whenever you can.

I have just noticed even numbers don’t work for me but I’ll stick to the #20 things just skip one (winks).

Have you seen that star?……………………. yes click on it if you stopped by and you appreciate my war with the keyboard.

Yours,

Miss Curiosity

In my defence

I want to be very happy and I really hate having a list of things that make me happy. Why can’t I be just happy and free all the time with anything? Seems elusive when people search for happiness out there. Yes, it exists but people search it in the wrong places like in other people. I think it’s found way beyond any visible or tangible things like -in your own mind.

It is mentally important to rant, I so much believe in ranting, I rant a lot and I’m not stopping anytime soon. Did you just get treated unfairly?…rant. Found yourself in a messy situation because you didn’t have options..rant. Is someone or something bothering you?.. rant just don’t insult anyone or be too mean. I always get a restart button after every ranting.

I believe I’m a strong lady out there in the world but I’m ‘weak‘ to my family and my loved ones not because I’m actually weak but I doubt I can never win from them so I just let it all hang out.

I’m not trying to say love does not exist but just how much do you know about it? In my defence the feeling is different for everyone and according to those who understand it, you are not supposed to expect anything in return when you love someone (wait, does that also include them not loving you back?🤔). I hope we all have loved things/people we have never had/met and will never have but wish we could. My only question is, if we happen to love a thing/ person then “them” that we wished to have show up, do we love both, stay stuck, embrace the new and discard the old or we can’t love more than one thing/person at the same time? I’m defeated, this is clearly not my topic and I don’t know a lot about love I should guess, but I know a thing- I love

Some settings and features in our phones were meant to be used. Just a reminder, Put your phone on airplane mode before giving it to a kid so they won’t download or buy anything while playing with it. That is not being mean. Use do not disturb mode when you are having a physical chat with people cause clearly a phone call will be disturbing. It is a sign of respect

Audiences tend to laugh more at male comedians than their female counterparts that’s why I find it important to entertain myself and laugh at my own stupid jokes.

Death is inevitable and there is no escaping way from it. So why live all your life trying not to die rather than doing the right thing- Proper planning to die.

Thanks for understanding me in my defence, I will definitely understand you if you have different opinions that’s who I am.

Miss Curiosity.

LIFE CARD I #20 things I have stopped doing in my life

I should have moved out of this zone earlier but I have actually stopped thinking what people think about me.
Stopped watching television basically because that bullshit is only in context to my country.
Stopped procrastinating; this I did so recently, anything I really feel like I can do or I should try I do it ( I did a post earlier about procrastination if you haven’t checked here is the link https://wwwruthogutu.design.blog/2020/07/07/how-much-do-you-know-about-procrastination/ )
I have no idea why people are on Facebook except for businesses. I left Facebook because there is nothing useful for me on this social site.
I rarely read magazines or newspapers but when I do I stopped reading the entertainment pages they are useless.
I stopped watching random videos on You tube I search for specific things to save time.
Stopped comparing myself to others cause they kind of slow me down and steal my happiness.
I stopped acting smart; You know what? I’m not smart enough that I know so I act my level.
Tricky, but I stopped talking to strangers especially them that I meet online.
I stopped being online for too long cause it gives me anxiety and depression
I stopped trying to get a perfect life because there isn’t even one.
I’m so proud of me on this,I stopped staying on my phone all the time especially when I’m with people.
Expecting or idolizing people, I just learnt I am all I need in life every other person can let me down.
Another great achievement even my Mom can attest I have been a sleepy head all my life but yeah! I stopped waking up late. I catch every sunlight and peace at the beginning of the day and yes this helps stop rushing life.
Of late I’m so flexible at changing my thinking and career path cause I realized as I grow I change my mind, interests grow and also change my perceptions about things.
I’m getting excited typing this, Finally I also stopped explaining myself to people. No excuses, apologies or worries and I’m not trying to grow rude.
Listening to music 24/7; of late I listen to wind and silence.
Trying to change people; if we connect that’s it. I deal with adults most time of my day so trying to change someone is hard, not worth it and ain’t gonna happen.
I stopped giving people access to my mental health, my personal space and well being it’s my whole universe.
I stopped being negative to small things they actually use a lot of my energy which is unnecessary.
Did I say 20 things? one last one, I stopped stalking crushes, exes and lovers on social media after all you will see what they want you to see and it is absolutely not worth my time.

Check out for more life cards in my upcoming posts and thanks for stopping by. I will only notice you passed by or you appreciate my time on the keyboard if you leave a star. Cheers!!

Yours,

Miss Curiosity.

Friendship gone wrong?

How do you keep yourself from feeling hurt when your best friend stops talking to you? What can you do to express yourself without feeling like the victim from the failed relationship? Keeping in mind you shouldn’t let others dictate your happiness it really does hurt when someone you trusted changes.

It all ended into ghosting. Those two had been very close friends for over five years just right from the first day they met at a queue while on the process of getting admitted to the university. They just clicked and everything seemed working for the two; same course, same hostel, same taste of games and even created same habits over time. The love and trust kept growing over time, event after event, the fun and laughter especially the nights they didnt sleep gossiping and laughing at silly jokes. The crazy things they did in the name of experimenting and enjoying the freedom that comes with being an adult.

I havent talked about the truths and dares, their crazy bucket lists and for once serious stuff like sharing project ideas, reading together or maybe helping each other submit their assigments and CAT papers or still signing both names on attendance lists even when the other was present in the room. After all the registration numbers, Identification and the signatures were at each others’ fingerprints.

All these are the memories that make her almost hate the ‘best friend” but actually she cant. What is this that changes so much to an extent someone you almost trusted with your life becomes someone you are afraid they might be planning for your downfall or almost be sure they never cared a bit while you were busy serving them your life?

It’s eight months since they talked and laughed like before but she isnt completely over her yet. Life and love are unfair that I know. “I didn’t do anything wrong to her, I was there for her when she needed me most, if she cared she will come back, if she didnt time will heal the pain” I could also say the same cause life is sweet when you are giving more and not expecting the same from people. It’s kind of bearable for me loving someone and not be loved back than the vice versa. Ego is something we all ought to have for the sake of our peace sometimes.

Its pretty hard and probably impossible to avoid pain from that cold treatment because she had a true connection with her, dont think its “dictating“. A decision to get over it is likely to hurt her and change her but the more maturely she responds, I guess the better person she will become.

I know I ask a lot of questions without answers but I know a thing about this situation, if they suddenly stop talking to you simply stop thinking about it as much as possible. The less you give your thought, the less room for emotion and pain. You could even pretend it never happened while having it at the back of your mind (the torture is less).

Be patient and try to find other connections with other people cause people come into your for a reason and leave for a reason. You will definitely find better friends and this time lifetime friends. Remember to love yourself more than anyone else and can you also keep in mind the Friendship paradox (your friends are more likely to have more friends than you).

I can also be your friend if they ditch you I’m right here.

Yours,

Miss Curiosity.